What to do when your ex starts dating someone else
When your ex starts dating someone else quotes
same pattern went on all winter break with him and we kept in touch via skype and calling and text when i went back to school and everything seemed to be going well and we were communicating a lot better. i don’t know how long but i know at least it has been 2 months maybe three that they been more then friends. how much time limit you give to yourself is completely up to you. i don’t think you were a rebound since he took 6 months after his last relationship to begin a relationship with you. i know it sucks but you need to become learn to be happy in your life without him before you try to get him back. know i'm not alone in feeling devastated over an ex moving on. real and i don’t think he will divorce her even i would not want him to due t religious reason. she always told me she would not date someone with kids. you should do no contact to learn to be happy without her. i think i would still be open to give him another chance if his reason of cheating was his family wanted him to dump me and look for another girl who doesn’t have a kid. like i don’t see any of the signs just the ignoring and already moved on signs. getting into relationships in the past at least hasn't changed the way i cared about my exes. i got a “i’m seeing someone, we’re done talking, don’t ever talk to me again”. a year after i ended one relationship, i found some photos on facebook of my ex with a woman i didn't recognize. mean to do nc for certain amount of time then try to attempt to associate with her but for nothing., although i struggle on the odd occasion… who doesn’t? i don’t want to “play games” but, i’d like to wait for a couple days after, as i mentioned before, i don’t want to upset her & i’d like to leave her wondering why i haven’t contacted her too. i think it’s because we were such good friends before we started dating. in fact, if you are already friends with your ex’s new girlfriend on facebook, you should de-friend her or adjust your settings so she doesn’t continuously pop up on your news feed. keep in mind that this person is not your direct competition. · 63 comments ladies, if you're diagnosed with genital warts/herpes, what does your life look like? like us on facebook twitter pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life. your relationship was unique and special and nothing can ever take away from that. and does no contact really work for me even in this situation? it just made me miss her all over again recently that’s why i do the stupid things like look on her websites but of course it only makes things worse seeing them together and seeing comments like he’s amazing and hearts around his name and other types of post that relate to him. left gym maybe 10 min after that and went home, didn’t want to annoy her anymore the what i probably did just by seeing me and have felt down since then. before he break up, i saw him with a girl whom he had get known that time when he said he doesnt want to continue. you want him to think your life is better than ever! other than that, what he said doesn’t mean much. am sorry…i was wondering, do you think i should lose all hope on this? in addition, this new girl doesn’t really seem like all the other girls he’s dated before me (i was also different from his usual type which makes me wonder if i was the rebound but he was single for more than a year when we met, so i don’t know) and she’s not friends with any of his friends and vise versa though i don’t know if that has anything to do with it. started to play online games with my ex again since last month and we had fun and he said “thanks for the nice memories:)”. don’t quiet understand when you say if she don’t respond which is unlikely in my case. story short, my ex girlfriend dumped me randomly (stopped having sex with me about a month before) so maybe no so randomly. yet i noticed something strange: he borrowed my laptop to do social networking stuff, checked on his photos and showed one to me, mentioning a female co-worker of his out of the blue. after a bout 8 month at sea i find out he is dating someone else i though i was okay with it but when i finish the contract and returned home and started working at my old job where both my ex and his new girlfriend work i feel very sad and heart broken i love him and wish to be back with him he has been dating this girl nearly three month now what should i do.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. ever since she’s been dating this guy she’s been posting pics on various social media and adding comments indicating that they are in love and he’s dreamy blah blah blah… also, she blocked me on fb when they started dating and then unblocked me. but i don’t know if that approach is going to work. goldreply[–]♀7timesaday 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)i've been pondering this all day, and i really don't know. we later talked in the car where she told me that she was seeing someone but is torn between me and this other guy because i’m a great guy. especially if the relationship with the ex was so messed up as is in your case. goldreply[–]lokislocksmith 5 points6 points7 points 4 months ago (0 children)have a melt down and keep blocking them on all social media accounts. is this a clear sign that i was never really anything to my current ex? it’s an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex. just because your ex is doing something that makes him or her happy, doesn’t mean you have to do the same. allow yourself a moment or two alone for some loud screams, maybe some throwing of objects that won’t break, but if your ex starts dating someone else, you have no right to be openly mad about it. you will miss your ex as you go through the grief process. your “sneaky signs your ex still loves you (even if they say they don’t)”. they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. if there is a way i could just get some feed back it would be really great and helpful, because i don’t want to keep feeling like any day or two i am gone snap and lose it about all of this . but thanks i will let her just do her and have to see what happens. i don’t want him to think that i can easily be that comfortable around him and he just might take advantage. super sexual songs that will make you drop your panties immediately…with lyrics! if she texts you during these two weeks, you can reply to her but keep it short. all what i remember what my ex had said, that he is confused that he has feelings for two girls, he said he knows its hard for me that he is with that girl, and he has said that he remember good memories of us. use this time to improve yourself even more and become more confident. i texted a few minutes later and still have no response. one article you say time place a big role people who were together six months or under don’t fare well compared to people with a year or more. me and my ex boyfriend had been 2yrs more together and we just broke up for almost 3 months but in that 2months we still contact and see each other and many things happened before i decided to do the no contact rule. it shows you that someone close to you can show you love and joy and the feeling of happiness that you might of had with in a relationship. when do you see it as it is and realize you have to just give it up. the only thing you can control is your actions and your decisions. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. was with my ex boyfriend for about a year, and we just recently broke up about 2 weeks ago. i have a feeling she is and has been seeing someone else even toward the end of our relationship. time can tell 🙁 i never controlled him or get in a way of what he likes to do. this is the first time i’ve ever done anything like this, i feel helpless. i don’t know what to do next, or how to answer? [read: 14 things to keep in mind when you run into your ex]. i have been two weeks nc and i just wondering if my ex has really move on with his new girl and am i wasting my time. i can make an educated guess from my experience, but it is still a guess. three weeks our break up, i heard from bf sister that new girl and my ex has something going on and i was ripped apart. then at some point i was talking to him about moving in with one of my friends if she happens to get a house and that was when he proposed that we move in together and i asked him if he was sure he would want that and he said i think we should set up a separate bed in case, but i don’t think it will be a bad thing. if your decision is based on what are your chances if she doesn’t reply, then i’ll say you still have a chance and you should try again after a couple of weeks (preferably a month). goldreply[–]loveforllamas 7 points8 points9 points 4 months ago (0 children)i only have one ex and i wouldn't care if he started dating again. don't talk to them, try not to look at their profiles, date freely, focus on why life is good at the moment. do you really think he could have changed his mind within 6 months? reading a lot of different things last couple months i have started to think that i was just a rebound from the start because she would always say stuff about how she is really attracted to me but nothing else. goldreply[–]♀inkysweet 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago* (0 children)i don't cope well. if it’s because of his family, then there’s nothing you can do about it unless he decides to go against his family and be with you. if you’ve already deleted her number, then don’t sweat it. even though it’s making me nuts i haven’t contacted him to ask if he’s seeing someone else. just because they have hope that if they go for someone completely different, they’ll find happiness. so long story short me and my ex for 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago after valentines day. i broke up with my ex and found out later on two weeks after our relationship that he was dating someone else. my friends all seem to think she has been manipulating my attention by doing things like this, as she only gets in touch when it suits her like when she’s been upset etc., in most cases, when you tell your ex you want to get back, they will most probably put their defense up (especially if they were the one who broke up). my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. he stalked her for the whole year we dated he texted her all the time. it’s out of your hands now, so shift your attention to something that’s within your hands to change. it might satisfy your curiosity, but it won’t necessarily give you closure. i don’t visit him so i will never know. my bff suggests being aggressive about it, but i rather follow your advice from last message and let it be his idea. heard from his mom my ex is still asking about me, how i am etc thats a good sign right? then he randomly freaked out on me one night because his new girl was mad because he had been talking to me and it was all my fault. i want more than the world for him to just respect me and treat me like he loved me, as he says he does. only way you can analyze your past relationship right now is just by memories and conjecture. was just a week ago when i stopped txting him because i realized it won’t do any good. a few days later, while still debating on calling him, he texted me again, emphasizing that he has contacted me twice. the following day i receive an email from her explaining she didn’t feel comfortable talking about it in person, but a month after she broke up with me she started seeing someone and they were going to marry in the fall. i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it. do apologize for taking up and wasting your time lately. but after that later she responded with longer message saying she decided it not healthy for her to e with me to much damage done to deal with and she been through this before but she thought it was different and she has moved on from it. the best you can do is give it a try. we still see eachother but lately i’ve calm down from crying and all of that. people don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. · 63 comments women who have an iud, how long were you told to wait before having unprotected sex? intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. do yourself and your sanity a favor and unfollow your ex and his girlfriend on any social media channel. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. have your moment of sadness and realization to let the news sink in, and then try to move on. i have tried just to be short and friendly but all i get is she reads my text then never replys just ignoring it or replys once hours later and that’s it. she always said she wanted someone who has some goals in life. she really does seem to enjoy every moment being around him and what they do. that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. went on vacation february 20th and i was going to be on vacation till april 7th well my ex boyfriend of 3 years and 8 months ended it with march 4th and he told me not to come home but he would text and call me sometimes still and then on march 18th he told me that he was talking to someone else but not dating them then he told me that he would buy me my ticket to come home when ever and then i ask him if i could stay at the house still and he said yes and then i ask him if he was still going to be there he said yes and that he didn’t want me homeless or loose any of my belongs and then i ask him the next day the same thing and got the same answers from him and he said it was going to be different but he would still be there for me and help me out and be around for me and then he said april i am sorry about everything and what happen between us but we know it was coming and then on march 24th i text him and told him that i got my ticket and that i will home in 3 to 4 days and he text back april i know u know that i’v met someone else because people talk but i want to be honest and then i ask him i can still live in the house right because u said that and then he said she is moving in and then i ask where my stuff was and he said in the house still but i am going to put it in the shed if it ok and i told him my stuff wont fit in there. her being ‘official’ 9 weeks after a breakup shows me that they clearly were dating for at least 1 month, which means she wasn’t grieving long at all (maximum a month). also there are a lot of articles written about how your best friend is the perfect one for you and the popularity of girls ending up dating their best friends and it being the best thing they ever had, also things on how they are the perfect ones for you all this time but you only recognize it after so many years. kevin, is there a place here for me, since i am definetely the rebound victim of my ex… (that is, te guy she had the rebound with). goldreply[–]♀pistachio-pie 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (0 children)i don't keep in touch with exes so i never really find out when it happens. replied as mentioned and now a text comes out of the blue from nc about working on a project together. they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. i don’t know who i have spent almost 7 years of my life with and it freaks me out. i have tried everything possible to reconcile i have had no response i keep texting and calling no answer. this means you can’t get mad when he begins to start dating someone else. the things that have happen since things ended like the random text sayin miss me or thinking and the few times she has come to see me since it ended. simply put, it’s like inwardly saying that your ex’s annoying quirks are someone else’s problem now! she doesn’t know that i know all of this. i pleaded for her to come back after i found out they had sex but to no avail. after that i went to her and told her that i can’t do this no more and that i will be there for her if she misses us in any time given, but i can’t share her happiness now when she has new bf. the best thing for you to do is no contact, at least for 2-3 months. have no choice but to do the no-contact rule i suppose?
What if your ex boyfriend starts dating someone else
that was confusing to try and understand if so then why are you with someone. things you shouldn’t do when your ex starts dating someone else. i don’t want the same thing to happen again. you check the rest of the photos and see that this other person invading your ex’s profile pictures is your ex’s new beau. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? even the night after i saw her making out with that guy she texted to say she saw me last night and if i had a good night. i’ve been worried sick about her because this new guy is a smooth talking player who doesn’t really care who his girlfriend is as long as he has one but she seems to think she’s in love with him and she seems to be trying to replace me with him. we haven’t communicated since valentine’s day and it’s been a month since they’ve started dating and almost 4 months since we broke up. ex an i have been together almost 10 yrs have 3 wonderful boys together well she broke up with me in june but we stayed in the same house till october she went back to her moms an i got my own place we both have the kids 50% of the time. i have read your 5 step plan and have been doing no contact and it’s weird it is not bothering me too terribly but i still wonder and sometimes think this is a sick test. got a call from my ex the other night at like 10 she asked if i was doing anything and if she could come over. i don’t want to do that and have yet to. we don’t hang in the same social circles so i have no clue? may like him because hes exciting but the glamour wears off. also that it is the easiest and quickest way to get over someone that you use to be in a relationship with because you are spending so much time with that new person like close good friend that it takes your mind off your ex and makes you realize that someone else has always had feelings for you and you might have always had feelings for them but never acted on them until now that this was the chance to act on those pent up feelings plus is shows her how incompatible she was with you . my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. still keep in touch with his mom, he always ask me to her (how i am, do i still go to there house). theory, your sleuth skills might be enough to let you go unnoticed, if you do deign to check them out. when you severed ties with your ex, you’ve basically forfeited the right to butt into your ex’s business. in knowing this, you’re better off focusing on something that can improve your life right now. he does have feelings for you and cares for you. and of course she’s now got a new guy now so it doesn’t matter; if she’s happy then good for her, that’s all i want for her anyway, before now and in the future. your mind is trying to find something to be obsessed about. when we were together we would have so much fun and everything would be great, the second we weren’t together and he would text or call me he became mean and said he didnt feel anything. can’t believe that they’ve moved on so fast, so you consult your friend, search the internet and everyone seems to say the same thing.’s nothing much you can do other than what i said above. do the things mentioned in step 2 and 3 of the 5 step plan. my love for him changed…i think i still love him and i wish he could admit what he did, or at least say he is sorry but he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong.. when i found out i told her i knew about it and she just stopped replying to me , what should i do. if things don’t work out by that time, give up on him and move on. no matter how much better or worse you are than her, it doesn’t change the fact that she is currently dating a guy you used to care about (keyword: used to). some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. so you get on facebook to have a little peek into the life of your ex. it looked like he was willing to take me back but once he admitted it i turned him down immediately having another sudden mood swing. i am looking forward to him coming back already, but i am afraid he will do something impulsive again. ex broke up with me back in december because he wanted time to focus on himself and his activities. taking my ex and her new boyfriend out to dinner after i had spoken to them. i freaked out after i found out he was dating someone else within a week after we took a break. during no contact, you will realize whether or not you should get him back in your life. when we straightened things out he said that he thinks its best and he doesn’t want to be in a relationship now., this hasn’t stopped him from pursuing this woman down in cuba. you are supposed to learn to live a happy life with or without your ex. during this conversation she told me “why be without someone who you don’t want to marry. it seems she is texting you just to see if you are there for her and once she realizes that you are, she feels satisfied and doesn’t respond to you anymore. he also text me to ask how i was and wish my mum a happy birthday! devious ways to be a crazy ex and get your revenge. couple days ago she sent me a bunch of books to read while i’m gone this summer, but then the next day she goes back to being really hateful and rude towards me and acting very spiteful. does she expect for a younger guy to really settle down? i just don’t understand her heavy drinking, sleeping around with guys that use her, her change in personality, and her loss of interests. you choose to search for a new relationship or put all your efforts into a hobby, it’s infinitely better than sitting at home and thinking about your ex and your ex’s new partner. i know she doesnt love this guy im way better looking she always said he was ugly. [read: are you jealous of your ex’s new life? i guess, i was right because when he broke up with me two days ago, he said that he wasn’t ready to take the next step with me of moving in together, and didn’t want to make that commitment to me because he was scared and not ready for it.’m looking for places…she does need to miss me but, in all honesty, i don’t she any hope in her coming back to me.#2 realize that your ex moving on before you is okay. its now been 5 months our break up, i’m still hurting and trying to go forward in life but my ex is still in my heart and doesn’t go away. and a part of your mind will not believe me and keep you stuck in your negative state of mind. ex and i broke up when i just came back from overseas exchange program. dont know what to make of this txt from my partner that just broke up with me two nights ago. imagine she’s over me by now too as i haven’t been able to stay nc because i have to see her in college every day and she just starts conversations at me. either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. sure ways to deal with an ex seeing someone new. he came back from vacation, he didn’t even explain why he didn’t text me that long…he didn’t even apologize. very common sign of a rebound relationship is whether or not they are trying to rub in your face. he initially didn’t like her but she had her eyes set on him and kept making her move, which made me feel insecure so i expressed my concern and so he talked to her and said he didn’t like her that way but i feel like that fueled her even more and she kept on pushing and making her moves on him till it made me really upset and insecure and really put strain in our relationship. i feel like my ex has second thoughts about us getting together he says there is still hope but i feel like there isn’t anymore, he dropped a bomb on me couple of days ago telling his best friend that he loved her, and she told him that she loved him back yet they can only be friends right now because she likes someone else, this is while i was trying to get back with him and he knew that i loved him. if you can confide in your ex about your current relationship, perhaps that's the ultimate sign you've moved on — to a friendship that's just as special. love her, but you need to work on your anger. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. decided today to be nosey and look at my ex’s facebook. and my ex of 5 years (which is also my 9month old’s father) recently broke up end of may….. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it). contact her after no contact period is over and until then just keep concentrating on yourself. i feel i want to reply as positive as i can on how i’m doing. discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after marnie breaks up with charlie on girls, she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his facebook photos. however selfish it may sound, the only time you should reach out to your ex is when your life could not be better. kevin, i know from reading this what you will think, but he is a good person deep down; affectionate, caring, funny and loving, however this dark side is extremely overwhelming. the fact that you broke up wasn't a failure on your part; things just didn't work out, and they might not work out with this new person either. i wouldn't even know, as we don't have any contact. i just don’t understand if my being a single mom was really an issue, since he told me from the start he accepts me for who i am (unless his family’s totally against the idea), or he’s just a pathetic flirt. im going on a date with his mom, do you think its ok to keep in touch with her? some people engage in this, especially if they’re still super bitter about their ex. could you please advise what should i do next in order to get him back?.Me: also, i’m not trying to get in the way of anything you’re trying to do (implying his new gf), i support you 100% and just want you to be happy. if she decides to go with her ex husband, then you’ll have to suck it up and accept it. was dating this lovely woman for a year and half, all around great honeymoon to foundation stages of a relationship. thought it was because of his friends,they don’t have girlfriends and because he is unemployed and kinda stressed because of that. we used to still text, but like about a week or two ago, she got mad and said either to stop talking to her or me. lather, rinse, repeat until time does its thing and fades the connection. only to indicate that either a comment or post does not add to discussion; not to indicate disagreement. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me.!I always block my exes because i break up with them and then it's just awkward by they always stalk me after. i know he texts her every day to say he loves her and misses her and counts down the days until he sees her again. 2 weeks ago, i found out he is dating somebody else because of their pictures together on fb(gf tagged him). you will realize what you should do during no contact..but then i did not know what kind of texts to send. i wonder if the extreme level of intimacy and commitment to her within hours of meeting her fits the ‘rebound relationship’ definition from your article. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun? you so much for your advice…i really think you are right. i can’t get her pregnant because of my infertility problems but we always would talk about being together for a long time and even settling down and have kids through a donor. i said okay, take your time and contact me whenever you get a chance. rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex. tell her you need to think about taking her back and that your talking to someone who is a nice friend. i could tell with the look on their faces that they never expected me to see them on the spot, yet i didn’t make a scene. all you know that she is not a very understanding person, since she is not accepting your explanation for whatever happened. because of that, i told him i understand him because i also have responsibilities that take a lot of my time (being a breadwinner and a single mom) i can’t have sex with him if he can’t commit. was with my ex for 3 years and we broke up. am just trying to figure out it it is worth to keep trying if after couple weeks of nc and i don’t get any response from her just to do another couple weeks of nc for the same effect of no association at all. don’t have to wait for it to be over. i've been told the same thing about meeting someone else. if she goes into a relationship with her ex, then it’s probably not a rebound. my experience, rebounds usually end and are not meant to last. i can get other women but i just don’t want anyone else. however, you can have a talk with him before doing so telling him that you think this is best course of action right now since you feel disrespected by the fact that he is with the other women at the same time he is with you. dad noticed his ex’s fridge was completely empty and what he did next was absolutely heartwarming. it may help to explain the inconsistency of his ‘feelings’ & the cheating. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. i applied the no contact for 2 months but just recently i just gave him a birthday cake (because his birthday is near) thru a friend, and he told the friend not to do such things again and told her not to get involved. right now, your mental well being should be your top priority. also, understand that even though your behavior wasn’t needy, the act of going to his house just so you don’t lose him was somewhat needy. if you haven’t read the main 5 step plan to get your ex back, then you should. plus all the the signs that your ex is suppose to show to determine if they are or not in rebound. i started texting one girl, went out with her, but i just couldn’t kiss her cause i only saw my ex.” i tried calling him because i wanted to get some closure…but he texted back “please enough is enough. · 25 comments women who can't or don't work, what is your reason and how has it affected your life or the way people treat you? positive and smart ways to deal with a hostile ex. the last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. and i was thinking the fudge, were separating and u have someone already and you’re telling not to cry? specifying majority demographics or excluding minority groups based on demographics. was this meant to happen was i just the last person she wasted time on before realizing she loves her friend more then a just a friend as someone she could have life with. posted on his facebook wall whether or not he wants to move to australia with her next year when she wants to do her phd. let me add to this that the week before she initially posted the picture of herself with her now-boyfriend i saw her at a nightclub making out with some guy that is not the guy she’s currently dating, and also looking over at me in between kisses (i was there with my sports team, she was there for a friend’s birthday and we knew by that point of the night that each other was in the club). she looks kind of similar to me, have the same similar personality, and they have been doing the same things that what we did.
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What to do when your ex is dating someone else
she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life! do i just not try at all to talk to her until she feels that she has something to say to me or what. but i am done now – this is a degree of disrespect i couldn’t even imagine and who knows what else i don’t know yet. isn’t it possible that she did have a meaningful relationship with you and after the breakup she just found someone more compatible than you? whatever it is that has you beaming like a light bulb, you have every right to let your ex know about it, but calling him after you’ve just discovered he has a new object of love in his life, won’t shed any light on either of you. am not saying that you should start a serious relationship with someone else. if he starts calling you constantly, let him know you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. it’s been about a month and i pretty sure they are dating i haven’t asked cause i am sure he wouldn’t want to tell me. if she chooses the other guy, then you cut her form your life and move on. he texted me to meet up with him the other night because he needed someone to talk to. don’t know what to do before she left she told me she loved me and cared for me but i don’t know if its true as she has moved on with this new guy as he knew everything i did wrong in our relationship and is trying to do everything to make her happy. my ex and i were together for about 6-7 months when we broke up because i was going back to school 12 hours away and he didn’t want to do a long distance relationship. easy ways to stop comparing your new guy to your ex. goldreply[–]♀xcarex 5 points6 points7 points 4 months ago (0 children)i hope she finds out quickly that he's a cheating piece of shit and doesn't get too invested..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years., say your ex is in a rebound relationship now and you start to do no contact. and during my no contact period my ex was also happy and enjoying with his friends and with the new girl ive heard he’s dating based on his posted pictures on fb.. i think they took advantage of him being depress and feed him with “she doesnt love you anymore” crap. if it is then if it doesn’t work out won’t it just mean they will still be the same way they are now but just say they are not together. i told him about someone who had offered to set me up and he said i should go on the date. ” from tht tina turner song whats love got to do with it . let him know that you will wait for him until he makes his decision but you will not be a doormat or his backup. you need to find a way to deal with your own grief and i don’t think obsessing over her relationship and her happiness is a good way to do so. down i would love to reconnect with her again, but i know i do not deserve this kind of behavior. months and sometimes years after a relationship, my heart rate still accelerates when i see an ex is dating someone new on facebook. here is what not to do when your ex starts dating someone else. believe he does have feelings for this woman down in cuba, though i think it is mostly based on infatuation and his decisions and actions right now seem more emotionally based than rationally based. i said sorry for everything i had done(second mistake). see the thing is aftr the break up i bought her roses it didnt work she just wanted space so i jus didnt see her but we still communicated via text. so we were working things out and all but then he starts talking to his co worker&now they are in a relationship. even though, she usually waits three months before sleeping with someone she is dating, she makes an exception in garry’s case; simply because she thinks that sleeping with him will make her forget about you. reach out to your ex when you want to know what’s going on in his life, and want to reveal what’s going on in yours, and when he has a new girlfriend that’s probably not the case. texted her how she was doing after her appointment with her terapist bus she said it is tomorrow. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. i just found out from him today that he’s seeing someone and was really surprised as i still think it’s so soon considering how serious our relationship was. i personally don’t know the guy, but information available on him doesn’t reveal stellar character. your ex knows that you are checking their facebook and if they are constantly posting picture with their rebound then it’s a sign that they are in a rebound. however, i’ve recently discovered that there most certainly is someone else in her life. this might be true if you had been acting like a crazy, stalky ex who wouldn’t leave them alone. that’s why it makes me worried that this is the same thing happening with my current ex. texted me saying that it’s probably best if we don’t talk anymore. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. goldreply[–]mccurds 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)i cut ex boyfriends off like a cord. promised me she wasn’t cheating, she just allowed herself to accept texts from another guy. seems harder now cause we didn’t just text for a day she called from the blue asking to come over and she seemed kind of happy to see me. the truth is, you can never know 100% if your ex has truly moved on or you still have a shot with them. like what do i say that will actually turn into a simple conversation without her saying two things and that’s it. if you want to pursue her more, do nc for another 2 weeks and try again. i do show him that i appreciate his efforts by thanking him, talking to him on the phone often (but i’ve never called him), and kissing him. it’s not like i can do the “no contact” because we have a daughter together so it makes it really difficult. i did not try to get him to explain anything yet and he has not texted me back. we were “seeing” each other for the first month, but that was totally exclusive, like we’d stay round each other’s places, met each other’s friends, and would gradually get more intimate, and then after making it “official” we were together for the last 2 months, meeting each other’s parents, all the things a boyfriend/girlfriend normally do. then about a 4-6 weeks ago he tells me that he has started seeing someone else and he said he didn’t know how serious it was but he didn’t want me to be blindsided if we didn’t hang out as much. its been almost 3 months since we broke up and i am doing the no contact…. i don’t know if its a rebound relationship with her new guy, or what the deal is there. you’ll be just wasting your time and causing yourself more hurt if you try to pursue him. i hope you actually got some help for your issues or i pity her. was really shaken up after our break, and didn’t know about the nc rule…after we broke up i texted him several times and i ended up called him profuseley apologizing and told him that i loved him (which i admittedly never did during our relationship). i realized he didnt make me happy completely and i still missed my ex. i’ve already started nc for a few days, but i just want him to be happy and i don’t want to ruin his chances at happiness. we just one issue which is not having enough time to be together, and we’re already lucky if we get to spend 2 hours of dating in a day. i don’t see how he is better besides being artist. i want him back because not all guys are open to dating single moms and i’ve fallen in love with him. to be assertive: 17 ways to speak your mind loud and clear. i want to share shortly my story and want to hear your opinion about it. she was doing this usually six days a week (weird because she was never into a lot of drinking ), and then she started sleeping over at “guy friends” houses. was always expressing distrust and insecurity over the situation he had with her, which i guess made me unattractive and i am regretting it now. he is a very honest person and said he started having feelings for someone else, but that he still loved me but it seemed like it was no longer “in love”, but then he explains that it’s possible to love to people and describes are love as a garden with many plants and what he feels for this new girl as a single planted seed. your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. never got a response from the email/don’t know if he even read it. about 3 wks back during the no contact period she texted me that she hasn’t done anything intimate with the person she’s seeing. i might have done things that she didn’t like since i am from a different culture. what to do after that if she doesn’t break up with her rebound? someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. i assume it’s a rebound as everyone has said to me it is and his own cousins where shocked it happened and so soon and having read your page. i somehow pulled it back but she wasn’t as the same as she used to be(i asked her to start detaching from me like 2 weeks ago but never thought she would do it, which i think is the first mistake i have done). it was a lot of fun, but i kept my distance and suddenly he was very flirtatious, talking about our sexlife and how great i looked and so on. your ex should no longer have an effect on you once you’ve moved on. he said that my ex said “hi how you (insert friend name), are you with sabrina last march 13? i’ve been ignoring all his gf’s remarks online and acting like i don’t even notice them, but i think she’s trying to up the odds by posting all this lovey crap about him knowing i’ll see it, though he has yet to say anything about the relationship specifically. let it be and move on, with your ex’s girlfriend out of the picture. doesn’t matter who has bigger boobs or a smaller waist, the one thing that is making you obsess over her is your ex, so don’t give him that satisfaction and forget about her! and my ex girlfriend were dating for 6 years before she broke up with me 2 weeks ago because of parents putting too much pressure on her. in fact, for all intents and purposes, the new person is your ex’s life has already won, but it’s not a competition you’re still participating in. of the examples of this social media behavior that i want to share came from one of my readers.” yet he’s still talking to me and says that he doesn’t want to lose a friend…. if she doesn’t reply even at that time, then your chances are slim and i’ll recommend you try to move on. a second right after that my ex came out and i was like oh boy here we go. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. she doesn’t know he has been seeing me also and is in love with him and i’m afraid he will become her boyfriend just because it’s the easiest and he then doesn’t have to take a look at himself. and then for some reason, you remember one of your exes. ask a trusted friend to change your password for you for about a week or two. texted me the other day a picture of something that made her think of me. but like i said before, you need to learn from your mistake and stop putting yourself in a position where he can hurt you again. let her develop a friendship with you again and listen to her problems n dont place any negative spin on her relationship. goldreply[–]♀fartingxfarts -1 points0 points1 point 4 months ago (2 children)i don't "cope. wife started a new job 1 year ago and all was good as she said she found her dream job as time progressed she was always talking to me about a guy at work that she found really interesting but i let it go as she seemed pretty happy still with me… during this time i found a new job and had to do nightshift and she said she was not happy with the night shift but accepted it as i was think about our future and try to get ahead in life due to our finical difficulties. do you think the chances are that she will actually realize that she was happy together and will think about that. that same break he took me out to see a movie and we held hands throughout the whole thing and after we went back to his place and he showed me his baby pictures and a few family photos, something he had never done before. things were moving forward slowly and a month ago we went to a concert together, which he initiated an where he actually told someone i was his girlfriend. that the change she still has feelings for me is bigger then the change she likes her other ex. she started dating another guy (totally opposite of me ) a couple of weeks after i cut all contact. she started seeing someone pretty much immediately, not sure if she left me for him or what. he actually texted me right after i posted that, just asking about a music festival i went to last weekend. my former ex thought it was over when no one officially said so she was with a guy for 2 months. i did contact his new wife and explained to her that i was still in a relationship with her now husband during their entire engagement up until they were married. me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. some people i know say she still likes her other ex a little bit. you can’t expect your ex to be stuck on you even when you’re no longer on speaking terms!. i had left him alone and he contacted my best friend asking how i was doing and that he wanted to be friends cause he cared about me still our breakup related to my actions and mistakes that pushed him way over the edge. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. tyne, the first thing i’ll recommend you do is tell him you need some space and time and start no contact. even if there's only negative feelings left i go for the block, even before they have yet to get involved with someone new. you are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. well eventually down the road i was feeling smothered so i tried to get some distance. he said it would be best if we cut down on the talking and we did until i texted to ask him about money he owed me. heard that his gf is bad mouthing him on facebook, posting a status “if you cant love me etc” and inserting his picture down below., my ex boyfriend dumped me after 4 years, i started a nocontact for 2 weeks then he contacted me, he told me that he ws with someone else but still in love with me, and he wanted me back. guy seems to be the exact opposite of someone she would usually date. i mostly recommend people to follow the 5 step plan once and if it doesn’t work move on. what i’ve seen on her social media she post how amazing he is and the cool amazing things he does for her. you are a woman or a man, please do not speak for all women. it’s possibly the best free guide on getting your ex back on the internet. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. help you keep your sanity and to keep you from revisiting that dark place you frequented after your breakup, here are our tips for what you should do. gf is dating one of her close male best friends. however she now is dating this new guy 2 weeks after we broke up. so so far ive begged pleaded left vmails done everything i should not do. i am really burning inside and i really want the relationship back and i would of course do anything to get it back. then yesterday i found out that he put my stuff in a empty apartment building in back of my house and that she moved in yesterday and her kids she already painted both rooms yesterday for her kids and then my brother called my ex boyfriend 2 days ago and he told my ex boyfriend either he is with me or not and he said to my brother that i was staking him and that he told me that it was over and that he keep telling me and that and that i am stupid because i can’t get it threw my head and then he said to my brother he moved on and he hopes this relationship works and that he don’t want any drama and he doesn’t want me to show up at the house at all but he told my brother that i am a friend and that he cares about me and what happens to me and that he loves me and he told my brother that he was not happy in the relationship with me and him and then he said that he met the new girlfriend a couple of days after i went on vacation and that he liked her and then he told my brother that i was going to live in the house and she was going to live in the house and my ex boyfriend said that won’t work so he told my brother that i am out and his new girlfriend was in and i am still on vacation at this rate with no house to go home to and he told my brother also that he wanted to end it with me a while back but didn’t know how to because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings and that is why he did it now because i am around family and he wants me to stay with family.. they want to take their new relationship slow and don’t want you to bother them. has been extremely vocal about wanting to be married for a few years now. can be the best version of yourself and sometimes it still won’t be enough.
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What to do when your ex starts dating someone else
the past 3 months, i have definitely been guilty of making all the ‘mistakes’ you mention in your article. i basically inflicted this pain on myself by taking my ex for granted and pushing her into this new guy arms. but i see things on how she loves him so much how they are perfect for each other and how she loves the things he does like took her to vegas for her birthday. i wanted him to feel that i was done chasing and exerting effort to get back. so i told my ex that but he said hes over me and just wants to be friends. she also said that she doesn’t feel anything for me but then contradicted herself by saying that she has been afraid to do anything with this guy because she still cares for me a lot and has a lot respect for me. i know she’s seeing someone but her usual mo is to show her enthusiasm with the person she’s with all over social media. do nc for a month and get back in touch. he found someone who was actually really nice, and i was happy for him. the big difference is that i actually cared about my current ex more then i have for anyone i told her i actually felt love for her not lust like others. men — if you sleep with a woman for fuck sakes call her the next day. can talk about the new things you have been doing during no contact. what should i do i can’t describe to you the pain i feel. if you feel like you must absolutely talk to her, then you can use one of the texts from the 5 step plan. that the initial shock of finding out is over i'm doing okay so long as i don't dwell on it. (also because we had turned into fwb and the sex was fantastic). they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. anyway, about 3 months into the breakup she started dating a new guy and they are in a full on relationship, talking about marriage and so on. she said she’d want to catch up and even was open to tell me her schedule and what she was doing. meant considering everything you have said till now about what happened, in my opinion and experience, i think she will reply when you contact her. then apply no contact for another 2-3 weeks and then text him. and if he doesn’t commit even at that time, you should move on. i am pretty sure she will answer me if i ask a random question from her. there are a bunch of articles out there on how to be more then just friends with a girl you have always had feelings for or how to be physical intimate with your friend. ex and i decided together to broke up because we didn’t feel like that this relationship was working anymore. without you wanting it, facebook will show you pictures of your ex’s vacation in bali or your ex’s sweet love posts to the new boyfriend or girlfriend. does that mean he has already started seeing someone else? because you’re friends with her on facebook does not mean you should stalk her like your life depends on it. after everything in a honest opinion what does it look like really. you can’t control what he will think/do or when he will be ready for a relationship. lots of crying, her telling me “i’m doing this for me. i am mad about how he handled things…i feel he doesnt even care about me anymore. it seems like she doesn’t care about me at all now. me and my ex split about 6 weeks ago and i asked her several times especially when she became more distant and easily angered toward me. then he started reminiscing on our past and my smile, but then the tone changed and he told me that i should move on, that i don’t want to be with him and years later i would thank him. like i said everything they do and he does for her and how she thinks of him are perfect and she loves him. then i told her it was for me then she said she knows my ears arent pierced and she doesnt want me to pierce them cause she doesnt want me to look like a thug. it seems the guy was the reason your ex left you. her best friend (girl) who is also a friend of mine and she told me that it is probably not true that she likes her other ex. the only thing you can understand and control is your actions.’s a time limit you have to set for yourself. she broke up with me, saying that she needs to get her life together and is terribly sorry for using me in this way, but my feeling is that the real reason is that i’ve really done a bad job in handling and embracing all this complicated stuff with her ex. don’t think there is going to be anymore contact i’m sure that the last time she spoke to me will probably be it anyway and also i’m sure they will end up being together for long time and not have this as a rebound or something that will end in future. forgot that she had mentioned that it’s crazy how next month would have been a year since we started. after all, the less your ex is on your mind, the faster you can get used to not thinking about how things were between you two. hasn’t thrown it in my face and has been (apart from a little moody) ok and not tried to make me feel worse than i already do. wanted to say stop exaggerating about the unhealthy part because we were both really happy she just got upset and felt that way when she had an attitude and i didn’t want to talk for day or two, it was to give each person space, not like i was such that bad person she makes me out to be. just express it in your own way, with minimal damage to those around you. but i had to end it because during the later part of our relationship, he became very neglectful, kept secrets, sexting his exes. she continues texting you, tell her you need space and time right now. regardless, you can try getting her back using the 5 step plan and if it doesn’t work, move on. birthday is next week but i don’t think i should say anything anyway but do you think it would make her mad or upset if i didn’t say anything. does this mean that my current ex just easily cut me out of her life to just easily and quickly with no hesitation replace me with her new boyfriend her friend? so if having a new relationship is what makes your ex happy and focusing on your career is what’s making you happy, stick with your career and quit mimicking what your ex is up to. if the ex is or has been in relationship since it ended why would the want to get back with their ex let alone associate with them after all that time. after all, you know your ex and your situation better than anyone else. guess the only thing you can do is give her time to figure it out herself. you decide how much time of your life are you willing to waste on someone. know there will be someone out there for me…but that doesn’t really help at the moment. why not spend your time finding someone who can truly commit to you. how can she fall out of love with me after almost 5 years of feelings for each other that she can surprise me one day and want someone new? like the no contact rule is going to screw me over here, more i don’t say anything more she going to be liking the new guy a lot more then me. i am just saying that you should start learning to live without her in your life and start exploring the possibility of finding someone else. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. goldreply[–]impossible_planet 11 points12 points13 points 4 months ago (0 children)depends on the ex. i had the feeling she might have an immaturity about her, her current state of mind could make her this way or bad experience from a previous relationship might make her treat her exes this way. your ex moving on is not a testament to your inadequacy. i don’t know if you completed no contact, but if you did, you should stay in touch with her and try to rebuild the attraction slowly. on the other hand, your ex might just be in a rebound relationship. since then i returned to uni and he continuously called/ text me letting me know how sorry he was and that he’d do anything to show me no matter how long it takes. your ex just happened to stumble upon someone else before you did. i last spoke to another fling i never even officially dated, i made sure to unfollow him on facebook so i didn't have a similar experience. instead, he or she just ran into open and loving arms, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than move on. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems. you are confused because everyone seems to be telling you it’s a rebound relationship while your instincts tell you that your ex has moved on. leaving your girl of six years for someone you barely know isnt ok either. except for the part where he said “maybe some day i’ll be back, but for now just be happy for me. so i text her and ask if she has moved on and that i thought we were at least going to talk. just before i leave to return to uni,I agreed to meet him, however this just ended up involving us going for a walk outside and me shouting at him saying “how could you do this? but what if you’re still not completely over your ex? what if after couple weeks she still does not have any association with me. i ended up showing up at his house…to what ended up being a better outcome than expected. even though he says he loves me when he broke up with me, does that mean anything? well after her always being needy towards me, she gave up i guess and was so angry at me that she went off and let her friends convince her to start having sex and talking to this other guy. you are the love of my life and i regret letting you go but i cant be man enough for you and i feel we had bought each other down and we are both two people in different worlds who magically collided past each other and fell in love. i don’t understand why she would miss me if you are happy with your friend. had a wonderful time with my ex mom 🙂 my ex is still asking if i still come to visit, or talk to her etc… and hes still with his bad influence single mother gf, i just want to put this out there. i’m no psychologist but after coming out of a long term relationship and hurtful breakup with someone with npd, he seems to show a lot of the traits. she texted next day to see if i’d bring the dog into her store. i decided to stop contacting him because our talks were confusing, one minute he said “you are my best friend” or “i love you” and the next minute he was saying that he still needed space and to be on his own. of all: i wouldn’t dare to show up here if i wasn’t absolutely sure that her ex (the one before me and the father of her child) is an absolute jerk. i don’t see him being 100% better in every way like see she’s but like i said she said she loves him so i know that we will never see one another or hear from one another again. and my ex were dating a little over 2 years and about a week after she broke up with me , she already found another man. i've moved on, it's okay for him to do the same. i just saw one of my ex's actually, who is married to a gorgeous smart woman and has three kids together now! even if your relationship had problems, she chose to leave you instead of working on them.” however, he told her the past year we had was rough and he didn’t know what i wanted and didn’t know how to make me happy and couldn’t handle all the ups and downs in our relationship. also, before she started dating him were in contact quite a bit, but right after she started dating him she became very cold and distant and seemed to be trying to push me away. my ex broke up with me six weeks ago, because he got scared of how committed our relationship was. do i just nc permanently and leave alone for good and let her do her own life? been 3months since my ex and i broke up, and now shes seeing another guy. think what do you expect from him in the relationship. she initiated the conversation but made it seem like she was doing me a favor. first month of dating they were already confessing their love on twitter, posting song lyrics to each other and now i’m confused if this is really love or just a rebound and that i should just go nc to wait it out but at the same time heal. yet i know i care about this guy a lot, but since i know i spoke up for a reason and don’t appreciate being disrespected, i can’t figure out his place in my life. but there is a problem that started in our relationship, i was getting jelouse of his best friend who is a girl in high school and about to graduate, she is 18, and my ex is 22 and they known each other since childhood, he told me that i had nothing to worry about, he isn’t attracted to her and he called me an idiot because he only loved me. i think the best thing you can do right now is start no contact. you so much for your response…it’s just so hard to understand how someone can tell you those things right in your face and lie. but if she needs to do that, then she probably isn’t over you yet and is quite immature. 4 minutes later “why do you not say “with my friend xyz” like it’s a ridiculous pet peeve but saying with a friend seems cold and distant.’d recommend you do no contact for a couple of weeks and then text her again. some cases, your ex will choose someone who is completely opposite of you in every possible way. i just dont know if what has happened are signs to leave, or if him becoming a raging dick when we arent around each other means that the “no-contact” rule will make this worse…. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again. about a week later, her older sister’s fiance’s friend from work was introduced to my ex and from what i heard from my brother who lives in that house with my ex’s sister, she has been going out with this guy like every other day, and doesn’t come home sometimes till after 2am. i guess he wanted to hide his new relationship from you because deep inside, he doesn’t want you to move on. you can try the 5 step plan, but your chances are less. might try to convince yourself that the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and she was just playing with you. message:Knowing that your ex is now seeing someone else can be a painful realization. people go into a rebound deliberately and choose someone completely incompatible with them because they know it’s a rebound. i was shocked because he doesn’t call me a princess. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. we had our ups and downs like the typical relationship. you get to be the one who made rainbow cake with them or first showed them arrested development or whatever made your relationship special. foolishly, i contacted her a number of times over the course of the next 2 months. after we broke up i basically did everything you shouldn’t do, i texted him and called him many many times for about a month until i finally realized that i needed to cut off contact and i deleted him off of all social media and stopped contacting him at all. i can hope is that it doesnt work out for obvious reasons im bitter. she doesn’t take much caution hiding it, she just doesn’t talk about it. and during no contact, i want you to think exactly what type of treatment you expect from him. i texted her on christmas and a few other times to tell her we should talk but she was defensive and not willing. i also made it clear to the guy on the first month that we were dating that i can spend time with him late at night only if he’s already my boyfriend or we’re with friends (if we’re not yet a couple). the only thing it’ll do is keep you in this obsessed state of mind. i still think he could do much better than her.
When your ex starts dating someone else
’s possible that he never got over his ex in which case it’s probably not a rebound. and after i started to see my current ex my old one was always saying she missed me and was sorry and other things. i worked on me and things i wanted to do and improved myself. if they found someone they mash up with better and everything in general about that person is better. was just in a relationship that moved way to fast thing is i still have strong feelings for her we been apart for 11 days when she left me i did the whole multiple pathetic text i told her a few days ago that i’ll stop texting altogether she told me not to stop texting her just not as much and that she still cares about me we just moved to fast i’ve pretty much made myself the door mat last night i erased her number from my phone to remove the temptation to get a hold of her i’d like to know if by doing this and not talking to her if it’s possible she could miss me things are complex because i guess you could say that i’m a rebound she just got out of a 6 year marage and is in the middle of a divorce she told me from the beginning that she doesn’t want to move fast but she kinda made it that way she kinda smothered me tho i enjoyed it made me feel loved is it possible to get back after i’ve made myself look a fool. and the more you lose hope the more you start analyzing their new relationship (and obsessing over them) trying to convince yourself it’s a rebound. he’s still with his rebound nearly five months later so if the man i love is still going strong with her, i don’t want his belongings left here forever. your mind is stuck in a negative spiral and you need to get out of it. about a week ago i saw a text from a guy on my gf’s phone and got disappointed that she was planning to hangout with him and when i asked to see all her other texts between them she said she deleted them because it would’ve made her feel uncomfortable if i saw it. but still, i’d recommend you give him some time to initiate contact before you do so. in some cases, your ex will find a type of person they don’t usually go for. i did nc for a while and then randomly i would contact him. resolute ways to resist the urge to call your ex. don’t scream it out at the top of your lungs on the highest building you can find! if anything, it has helped me know that my friendships with exes were genuine and not ploys to get back together. and if she doesn’t break up by the end of that time limit, you give her an ultimatum. goldreply[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (0 children)i don't. she told you not to stop texting her, let her know that you need some space before starting contact. don’t even know how to talk to her anymore.’ve always done something special, along with sending a single yellow rose on her b’day. what should i do if he doesnt reply to my text? i told her that i could not be in a relationship with someone that did not have the same feelings as me. i don’t think she would have stayed with you if you didn’t mean anything to her. took time before we got into sex, i took her on multiple dates. a few days beforevalentine’s day i texted him (sad, i know, but i didn’t text him so i wouldn’t be single for vday haha). so we started dating for another 3 to 4 months again and now she broke up with me again a week ago. i was trying to get her to get back after that but she was saying she cant and she doesnt want to mainly tht she doesnt believe me. you i was upset when i found out by accident my ex had a baby with the guy she dated after me. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. i read your article about the no contact rule and the 5 step plan. ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago (we dated for 2. my question is … do you think i can get my ex back ? i said before, you should remove her from all your social media. And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your lif — Comments PageHarassment/catcalling. i'm not an extreme blocker so i would most likely internalize it, and reach out to wish them the best. told once you meet someone better and you like more you will feel better. are 3 months into this mess, and while a part of me wants to think this is a temporary thing i need to just let him do and wait out, another part of me feels like i need to win him back quickly before he runs off for good. i don’t know if this a rebound relationship even though he married her because he’s having trouble in the marriage and his now wife is emailing me stating that’s she confused and if i’m still contacting him…. what i’m confused about is four days later he had moved on to a new girl and they’re currently dating. i don’t think you should hold it against him the way he handled the breakup and what he did after the breakup. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. i was originally going to show up at his house and clear the air claiming i just want to be “friends” just to get my foot in the door and work my way in from there. there is no more bond to speak of, so whatever your ex does is out of your hands. i do love him and forgive him and see if there is a chance for us again. you will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. your website has been very insightful, helping me approach my breakup bewilderment in a more healthy and productive way. deep questions to ask your boyfriend tonight that will immediately bring you two closer. perhaps there is someone better out there suited for you. after a month of no contact from her (my gf), what should i do about it? don’t know what to really do about any of this. i usually recommend people to give themselves a time limit, in most cases, 2-3 months, if things don’t work out by then, you should just move on. anyways, talking to him made me go crazy and i ended up blowing up his phone which was a bad idea and he finally got angry and told me to leave me alone, he wants nothing to do with me, he gave me too many chances, hes seeing other girls. had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. how can he go from ‘come visit me next month’ to ‘hey i replaced you’ within the short amount of only 4 days?’ve been doing the nc with him for a week now, but within that period i accidentally bumped into him but i didn’t expect him to show up in the area right then and there. i hope you could help me out, my ex bf and i had a great relationship for 4 years, he is my clyde and i was his bonnie my partner in crime. i know every situation is different based on the individual, do you think it is better to keep trying to actively rekindle the relationship, or should i purposefully create space by restricting our contact, communication and the things i do for him? we talked and she said that i was someone special and meant something and that i still mean something to her. i also hope you find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated. point i am trying to get to is after reading all these articles and comments and what not i still do not feel that there is any chance i can get her back not even with all the advise here, and especially since i feel that maybe she has been with this guy longer then i know about which makes me sick and really anger. i don’t know if it’s somebody from this country or from somewhere else but, she hasn’t started going out (yet) and although i really want to ask her who/where this bloke is/from…i don’t want it to kill me anymore than it is. i don't know anything about who she was or what the relationship meant to him. think she is exhibiting some of the signs and she definitely still has feelings for you. or say for some strange reason she actually does contact me sometime here and wants to talk or hangout and say some small chance in heck that we do this on regular basis we just talk more and what stops her from constantly thinking of him as more of a friend. done everything wrong, i really wish i had read your article a month ago. more you pay attention to what you can do to become a better person, the less time you’ll have to sit around and be bitter about your ex’s new relationship. during the break we were still talking and texting and seeing each other. he dumped me over spring break, on text because he got mad at me that i forgot to do something. with the first ex, i still relied on him for emotional support the way i did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship. well down the road i split up with her because i thought it was best. let him do most of the work since i feel that i’m the girl and he shouldn’t feel that i like him a lot.’ve always done something special, along with sending a single rose on her b’day. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her., you need to get out of this situation and find yourself another place. she recently turned 18 and seems to think she can do what ever she wants. met online, and i’ve been trying to meet someone new on there. went through similar situation my partner at the time left me basically to be with someone else he recently phoned saying he wanted to marry me at the same time he was trying to get rid of her it hurt me i couldn’t stop brining it up but lately i have stoped begging him or calling him for i shouldn’t have to be brave i also joined the gym which help . this: 13 ways you know you’re dating a high quality woman. my ex was furious that i spoke to her parents and now refuses to speak to me. however he has texted twice: to ask how i was doing and to ask a trivial question. i don’t know if she will ever contact me again or not.. he started on a dating site 4 days afte the break up and told me so. she knew she wanted to breakup with you but she didn’t expect to be so much miserable after the breakup. now after letting me down with payments, shouting at me and hanging up continuously, i didn’t know what else to do other than to block contact with him. if he decides he wants you again, don’t be so quick in taking him back. ex boyfriend started a new relationship while he was still in a relationship with me i knew we had problems and, i found out about him being engaged, but he continued to contact me/flirt with me and visit me. before i knew it, they were engaged within one month of dating. when he and i talked about it because i expressed my confusion about a lot of the things that happened over spring break, he said he was sorry about leading me on and that it wasn’t intentional and that it’s easy to fall back into a relationship like that. if i had to guess, she loves you more in a romantic way while her ex is more of a “father of her child” sort of love. came across your site and am starting to follow the 5 steps and have recently began the 30 day nc period. you were always there for her, and she didn’t consider your feelings. dude is a recovering alcoholic with domestic charges in his past. told me that there was nobody else, and at first i believed her. two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying i have moved on. i did some of the no no’s…ima human being who had his emotions seriously messed with…i have since cut all ties…going nc as they seem to be more serious and have been dating a few months now. the next day he told me he spent the night on the beach and cleared his head. 2 weeks passes without contact n out of the blues he texted me asking how i am and such, i tried playing cool and waited hours before replying to his simple messages but i now messed up. he does these 8 things, he doesn’t actually want you back (he’s just bored). engage yourself in things that build you up, not tear you down. i said that it would be best to move out (90% of the stuff here is mine…it’s much easier for her to move and i really want her to miss me) but she doesn’t want too. don’t know what she means she hasn’t been around for long time so how would she know that i’m the same when i’m not? someone who will care about you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. he’s says and his profile does he is not looking for anything serious but wants to date. my ex girlfriend and i have been separated for just over 5 months. the person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. day she is the loving partner the next she has done the complete reversal on me. want to try and forget about your ex, and you don’t need to be constantly reminded that he is dating someone else when pictures of the two of them show up with lovey dovey captions like “love him,” or “my boo. this article, i’ll lay out some signs that will help you understand the rebound behavior and figure out on your own whether or not they’ve moved on. i really don’t know what the relationship is like because she doesn’t say anything about it to me. you’re holding onto your ex (even if you won’t admit it) based on your zodiac sign. happened just today, my exbf contact one of our common friend in college. for my ex, after 5 and a bit months she’s still been simultaneously hiding her relationship (ie, “it’s not official”) and rubbing it in my face (all kinds of tweets, photos of parties with him/things we used to do, etc). she said when he was stressed she would get stressed and then he would get mad cause she didn’t express what was wrong with her that’s when she said he yelled at her. you are trapping yourself in negativity about the relationship and yourself and i will suggest you seek professional help at this point. post: should you contact your ex on valentine’s day? noticed that after that day of making out, he started disappearing little by little…no text the whole day, then the day after that he just sent me a text that he has a lot of problems. he said he was supposed to see someone but he put that off to give me a first chance. he said in march ‘i’ll collect my stuff soon when work calms down’. if she has been consistently cold, then i’ll recommend you do no contact for another 2-3 months. if you really think it’s going to upset me if it’s a girl i don’t care”. if they already connect on deep level then i’m sure she feels the sexual physical part is complete too. but when your mind starts wondering whether or not it’s a rebound, you can drive yourself crazy analyzing their behavior and obsessing over every little detail about their new relationship. do you think he will still care or think about me or should i stop worrying and move on? she contacted me again after like 4 days and we just talked random stuffs. for what to do, you should just apply no contact, at least for 60 days. so even if you force yourself to try and be better than the new partner, your ex probably won’t dump his or her partner just because you’ve improved yourself overnight. and you should do nc for 30 days and message her after that. seen that she said she loves him so i see that they think they are soulmates and always have been but take away the material things he does and the notion of you thinking you have same ideology and i don’t see much there. figure out exactly what you want and when you contact him again, let him know what you need and expect. my ex cut me out of her life post breakup when she met her new dude i was fine and continued with my life. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. also, does this sound like a rebound and what should i do at this point? this time i know my ex hasn’t forget about me.
What to do when your ex dating someone else don’t you think that you should be concentrating on what will make you happy?, how do you cope when your ex starts dating someone new? while men can still offer input, if your view conflicts with a woman's, we ask that you do not downvote or invalidate her response. i’ve been in nc for about a week but miss her and get major doubts that i could get her back because she tries to convince everybody she’s really happy with this new guy but gas only known his for two weeks. the meet up lasted for an hour with him wishing me well on my next relationship. you go to your ex and say straight up “im not going to play a lot of games, this is how it is. but he said “no, i don’t need space,” i want to keep texting and talking to you. should i keep doing this then message her aftr 30days? i mean, a part of me does wonder was it me that caused him to run, or is he a natural runner? i will take the advice that i am given because whatever i am doing, is not working! attempts like moving in together after only 5 weeks of dating; meeting garry’s parents and asking garry to meet her parents; planning to move overseas with garry. is this new girl a rebound and if so what are my next steps. texted him already but he dont reply knowing that he is awake and online. ex boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 year and 5 months. even if you try to resist, there’s always the temptation to have a teeny tiny peek at what your ex is up to. she thinks that the new relationship, despite not being what she expected, is still giving her some level of comfort. i don’t know how long she has been seeing him but i know that she has been looking for dates soon after we broke up. she also kept saying that i’m such a good guy and that she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings, which i don’t know what that means because that’s what she’s doing. comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning. if i already, after the break-up , went all desperate texts/phone calls followed by 21 days nc. obviously, i was upset and i told him that i felt unimportant to him because of what he said and he expressed that that wasn’t true and that i was important to him and he didn’t want to lose me and he would do what he needed to do (within reason) to make me happy. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. the new guy/girl seems completely opposite of you and yet your ex seems committed to make this relationship work. and im too scared to write him that letter, especially when he’s with someone else. that being with someone for like a year or so is when they have better chance of working things out in “long time apart”. he would tell me he was dating other girls and one time he offered to give me another chance but i didn’t respond. if you have not completed no contact, do so before having another interaction with her. when i had suggested getting together to catch up and she said it wasn’t a good idea yet i told her no problem don’t be shy to suggest it sometime. as for them being the same person, like i said before, it doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship is perfect and doesn’t have any issues. however, don’t make it obvious that you want to get back together. even if he does come back, he might hurt you again. what are my next moves, i can’t find that anywhere, please help 🙁. the only thing that should matter to you right now is to get out of this negative spiral you are stuck in and try to enjoy your life. doing some soul searching, i realized my reasons were different for each person. but since applying the nc rule last night she still texts me and wants to know what i’ve been doing and when my days off are? telling she cant adjust with me as i am 11 months younger to her and now she is in a relation with a new guy whom her parents will also like and she loves him alot and will marry him, and she also told me doesnt love me any more and dont expect her again. also do you think she will go in a relationship with her other ex for a rebound or a permenant relationship? i guess the best you can do is keep in touch with him and have fun conversations with him occasionally. if your ex is going out of their way to show you they are happy in their relationship and everything’s going great, then it’s probably a rebound and they are not doing that great in reality. missing someone is a huge part of the grief one goes through after a breakup. suddenly, out of nowhere my bf called me and told that he has been thinking about us and thought he doesn’t want to continue. this time i am going for the next no contact period. then just over 3 months ago he met this 19 year old girl ( he’s 27) and has been seeing her exclusive for 3 months they even did a 2 week trip to new zealand together… my question is should i be worried that this relationship is serious?: well, we had a connection and i don’t think it could be replicated. also says if your thinking of our ex at anytime its not important that you should not do it just learn to move on cause it’s not worth it to think or feel like you want them."most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist cathy beaton tells bustle. those belong to someone else, and that person is welcome to 'em. is what i plan on doing and i hope your right about the missing me part. what is going on and what on earth do i do? the way he has handled and initiated our breakup has been very immature and yet i would probably try again later down the road. he said if we got back together, then i would just be getting my way as usual, and that he was super busy at work and hadn’t really thought about us for the past few weeks, and he couldnt’ do the ups and downs anymore. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. and i don’t think you should continue contact with him and/or have any high hopes of getting him back. was wondering if there is a time limit or something to all this i know your suppose to strike before the move on but if you can’t even associate even the smallest simply conversation. then how do i go about talking to him if he just keeps avoiding me and i can’t get through a friend. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. do you think that’s too creepy even after the 30 days? we broke up and about 2-3 weeks later i know he put himself up on a dating site. doesn’t mean that we could never have gone to those fancy shows and places or that we never had same interests either. tell him you need time to think things through and so does he. he doesn’t want us to cause each other to hurt. i don’t understand how he could just have met someone else already especially as he works like crazy and his parents hadn’t even been aware that we had broken up until i told them. but this guy was a rebound because he helped me stop thinking about me&my ex whenever i was with him. she also had an ex of 5 years before me that she jumped from him immediately to me. do you think if you understand her behavior and what’s going on in her mind, you will suddenly start feeling better? what is there to possibly miss when you have had your best friend as your new boyfriend for some time and you love this guy.’m going to send the “magic letter” but i’d like your opinion first, please. we talk she tells me she misses me an she doesn’t want to get back right now i just wanna know if she’s in a rebound or what cuz it’s hurting me inside an i wanna move on. i said i know your with him (her friend that she is now dating) and you seem happy i’m not going to make problems for you. your ex will never experience with this new person exactly what they did with you. i told him even though he said he said we shouldn’t talk anymore that i still care about him and will always have an open ear if he needs someone to listen. it sucks but trying not to let it get me down too much. we did still see each other on and of till about 4 months ago, until then he was just dating girls but nothing serious. she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you. this time, don’t let your mood swings affect your decision. he is now dating his ex girlfriend from 11 yrs ago who cheated on him more than worse. broke up almost 3 weeks ago and sadly i’ve done the text terrorism and showing my neediness towards him. it’s an attempt to have the same level of intimacy that you had with your ex, with someone else. your e-mails everyday and web site has been helping me tremendously. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. the other end of the spectrum, there are exes who will try to hide their new relationship from you. do i contact him and give him a time frame to collect or continue no contact? you need to stop trying to rescue the “damsel in distress” and find someone who is happy and who can make you happy. there are things i know she really isn’t down with and some of them he has. although, it doesn’t necessarily make it a permanent relationship. i started doin the no contact but it was short it was about 2 and a half weeks because she asked me to see her for our b- day and btw we had a very good time and she loved the gifts i got for her, after that we saw each other two more times later on in that week but idk if her relationship is a rebound because she liked this guy before we met and another thing is she said he’s a nice guy and always makes her laugh she ” loves him” now i don’t know what to do i really want to have her back and i am changing for the better cause she means so much to me. does care for me…but has made her mind up and can only look at me as a friend and flatmate. friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else., although i struggle on the odd occasion… who doesn’t? month after she talked to me for 2 hrs i listened she gave me lies and excuses and no explanation . cut all contact with him and move on with your life. then put up a news article from a psychology website 2 days ago of “10 healthy habits that happy couples do”. i bombarded her with texts and calls for the first couple of days. think he felt suffocated and wasn’t ready for a relationship, and therefore doesn’t (or felt like) want to have kids with me. she doesn’t respond (which is unlikely in your case), then it’s your decision whether to pursue her more or move on. it was pretty much out of the blue since we were celebrating and the next week he told me he needed space, time…he continued to tell me he loved me and that he wasn’t going to leave, he just needed space. also, don’t ever try to get to your ex through a friend. recommend that you don’t initiate contact and let her do it. she was really nice to me and i really love her a lot(i think i love her more than i loved anyone else). i have been trying a lot to just focus on myself and not think of her and what’s she is doing in her life now or who she is doing things with or has been for how long. that and when you have been apart for almost as long as you were together don’t that kill any chance of that ” running into them and realizing things could work” type deal. i don’t want to appear cold and drive him away further, but i also don’t want to facilitate him thinking he can have the woman in cuba while i’ll still be here to do all the nice things he wants. he didn’t respond, but then the next day he randomly messaged me and said that yes we can still be friends. if anyone has suggestions as to what i should do, please let me know. kevin,i had read your all 5 steps but unfortunately i think its bit late for me,i am 23yrs of age and my ex is 22,we were together since 6 months from june2013 to dec13,but my possessiveness ruin our relation though i love her very very much,we were working together but break up cause me to leave the organisation which i was seeking from last 3years,after that i had tried to contact her in every possible from message to email,since last 4 months i was continuously text her because i thought time shouldn’t run away but she feel it very irritating and start to hate me more than she loved me,we were in great relationship but my few mistakes asked me to pay heavy price,but i really love her and she had also loved me alot,and i desperately want her back so please please help me out. about the exciting new changes you’ve made in your life. she still wants me to be one of her best friends but she doesn’t want me for her boyfriend any more. in addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex is in another relationship. what should i do now after my no contact period to him? are common responses when ur ex appears to be withholding their new relationship when secretly wanting to get back together. he’s sent a few horrible texts since and blamed me a few times and trying to reinforce he’s moved on but i’ve been ignoring him, no contact! also i am in no contact with him but he hasn’t contacted me except for messages claiming that it was a friend of his messing around with his phone when i received no messages him earlier that day.’m also lost on if your dating a close friend someone who knows all about you and she knows about him. should i just not contact at all until she does? i don’t see how he is better then me. have some problems with my ex she left me because of my behaviour indeed we were in relationship for 4 years or more and i use to scold her for some reasons but i use to scold her because i use to care for her although a thing is that after we broke up she didnt want me and said she wants to br alone and she also said she also loves me and does take care of me but doesnt want relationship due to my behaviour and attitude i really love her and want her back as we also had the intimate part in our relationship as she use to help me now what i do to get her back please help. everything was fine and got along and hung out a lot (nothing sexual) just friends. i blew up in the follow-up text messages and i probably will regret that but i am human and still in love with her. four days later i was told by a mutual friend that he was also seeing someone else and had been doing so 2-3 times a week for 2 months! i’ve done no contact with her in the past. she dated this guy alex for two years before me. so quit the comparisons, quit the stalking, quit the brooding over the fact that your ex got over you first. now i have texted him since wednesday and he has been very rude to me and says leave me alone, i’m seeing other girls, but yesterday i called him after receiving 20 blocked calls. ex and i are broken up for about a month now. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing. i would try at least to do things to make her happy. had been with my ex for ten years she broke up with me 6 weeks ago she said she felt different but still loved me i had suspicions she was cheating because she started to lie a lot it she is now with this guy but denies it. you are looking for a time to reach out to your ex, as soon as he starts dating someone else is most definitely not that time. so my questions are: should i try it after a few weeks or a month, or do i just have to let it go and give up? girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with with an email message at exactly the 2 year mark of our relationship. she said she doesn’t like posting personal things on facebook. girl and i split after 6yrs on and off, we lived together for about a year but her jealousy pushed me to leave, so we get back together again and we carry on our reletiknship but she always accused me of seeing my ex ex, then we stopped talking for a whole month and i find out she has a new man in her life and she has been seeing him for a least three months.
What to do when your dating someone you dont like i found out my ex was in a new relationship i was still struggling with the breakup. like i said, this girl seems to have a track record for going in too deep and too fast which is why guys come and go when it comes to her, do you think this means it’s likely to end quick? i feel confused and dont know what to do right now. i explain in the article, her relationship is probably a rebound and she isn’t as happy with her life as she seems to be in social media, which is why i recommend you stay away from her online profiles. after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. i don't think they're together anymore and i don't even think it lasted very long, but like you said. i don’t know how serious it is, or how long its been going on. two weeks after break up, she hooked up with a guy who looks exactly like me, has same interests, watches same tv series, listens to same music etc. she doesn’t love both of you in the same way. i do know she has got some things going on but i have the feeling that maybe i should just leave her alone because she will not want to try again. do anything and everything you can do to make yourself happy. it’s good that you are doing nc and improving yourself. i expressed my desire to wait until i graduate and can provide a little more stability for our family. this carefully designed test to find out your chances and if you qualify for the ebp basics e-course. i can’t do and give her the materiel things she likes that he can like tattoos. that he doesnt want to have kids or get married any more. just feel that no matter what he’ll feel like that for a while (doesnt want to get married and have kids) but that in the end, at some point, he’ll want them (maybe not get married, but i dont mind that, i just want to know i ‘ve found the one and we are both commited “forever”, but i dont need a paper and even less, a wedding). four days later i get a text from him saying ‘i have feelings for someone else’ i texted back just saying what?, after months of texting back and forth, of him mostly blaming me for ruining something beautiful, but also wanting me to accept and be happy for him. reasons the best relationship of your life will be with a girl who likes to ‘fix’ people. after she calls me out of blue and ask to come over and then does not talk to me two days after. i’m not trying to come off as needy at all, but how can i even get her to meet up with me when i know she’s willing to but maybe her new bf is tying her down? she called at two weeks to say she doesn’t think we should talk for awhile. and when i texted her she refused texting me back for another 3 days and said she wanted to break up with me because she lost feelings on me(while waiting, i sent her a long email stating how i felt about her and i wanna know why she is not replying me). if it doesn’t, then you know it’s over for sure. i was so curious if he already has a relationship with the girl, and i had the chance to catch them on a double date with the two other colleagues. while others are not able to get out of the grief and their minds become obsessed with their ex. is your ex for a reason, and for that reason or any other, you two are not compatible, at least not at this point in time. but i’m sure she thinks is really great which obviously she doesn’t see and probably couldn’t care about because they are best friends and they get along so perfect with and about everything even when physical intimacy was introduced and involved i sure she thinks that’s also perfect too. she hugged me and started crying, she hugged me for around 10 seconds and told me:”i can’t do this, i feel like i’m cheating on him. should i approach him around that time and ask him if he’s still down? by september of this year, things seemed to be getting better, but in november, he went to cuba for a week and came back telling me he met someone he was madly in love with and wished to end things with me. i first wrote in i gave little bit of story and what was happen between us, i seem to be having more trouble lately because after i saw her with someone else at her work when i stopped by to talk and give her a letter i ended up texting her next day saying wish you didn’t hate me and hope you read that letter and i know it probably wont mean anything but she said she don’t hate me and that it did mean something. i know i will get over him one day but i don’t want to and the pain thinking about it is unbearable 🙁. do you agree with what my friends have said in regards to a slightly manipulative behaviour from her? we were never exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! i’m so confused and don’t know what to do to be honest. your mind is still going to continue thinking about it and probably stuck in the negative spiral. need to mention that after she called it quits, we continued to live together as flatmates (and have done for two years).’m sure that is what my current ex is realizing her self. breakup was random and blindsiding, occurring on her birthday after i took her out for dinner. i don’t understand why he is not running back to me? i know he’s seeing a woman he met -and rejected when we were together, he minimized it and asked me to not tell him if i’m dating. beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you. it hurt so so so much and i really couldn’t believe he could do that to me full stop, let alone during a time that i was extremely vulnerable. that with me she was not really happy and not care really compared to her being with her friend of her new man now who she would do anything for because she is truly happy with him and cares a lot about him. does this strengthen the fact it could be a rebound? ever since then, i have been pestering him by call and texts for two weeks. when first time i saw her i was like your all different she agreed she is into things she was not into before but all of a sudden? either she breaks up with the guy or you completely cut her from your life and move on. · 124 comments mothers of aw, what's something your child does/did, that made you think "that's so mini me"? give her some time and space and meanwhile try to make some positive changes in your life. you’ll berate your ex for being with someone else? we said we should take a break to miss each other for some time, we missed each other soo much after 3 days, but we said that we can’t do this for next month, so we broke up saying we should stay only best friends. if you can’t seem to do it by yourself, you should seek professional help. i began to want a way out when i found out he was hanging out with a girl behind my back, but nothing sexual happening, he said he just didnt want me to know…. have been right so far this whole time so i can see that before she made official choice for herself to end things she had already moved on and past me with simplest of ease even if she said she missed me or thought of me which i don’t see a true since she had already started seeing him more and more. due to my problems i let my frustrations out on my ex. but i gave valid answers for everything i’ve done, but she is refusing to accept those. then a week later i found out that he started seeing his ex, who cheated on him before we started seeing each other. she saying she misses me and thinks of me at random times just like my former ex and i don’t want to see that all this time she is having best relationship ever with her best friend and find out they are engaged then married. have since learned that she asked a friend of mine if she should tell me about the engagement before i heard it from someone else. if at that time she still wants to work things out with her ex husband, then you should move on. goldreply[–]♀catrionashadowleaf 21 points22 points23 points 4 months ago (1 child)don't social media stalk them so i never know. the last text from her was “i don’t have anything to say to you at this point in time. what is going on and what on earth do i do? flowers, letters everything but its seem like its too late, which were her exact words. goldreply[–]rms55 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (1 child)how did the messy feelings resolve themselves, if you don't mind me asking? or how she says she wants to be friends and then will changed her mind and tell me she doesn’t like me and wants a complete break from me until she is ready, but then we will get in contact again a few days later like nothing happened. she clearly posted this message for her ex to see. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. i feel like everything crashed down again but not as bad as when she broke up with me. the thing is, my boyfriend and i haven’t officially broken up in the sense of verbally confirming it, however after numerous arguments over the telephone and him continuously hanging to the telephone on me, i decided to block contact with him and not allow text/ phone call communication. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. and also the girl is controlling my exbf decision not to resign from the company because his parents are asking him to apply to a diff. don’t think there’s a hidden meaning to it. she doesn’t feel as empty as she was before. week i visited my ex (after 8 months) and he looked great! confused why i’m getting told that i was important and i am misses more by a older ex then current one. childcare is expensive, so we alternate schedules in order for one of us to stay with our daughter. it doesn’t necessarily mean she will still has feelings for him. stopped no contact at 30+ days using the magic letter, she texted me and told me that a lot has happened., most likely a rebound and it was probably done to get a reaction out of you. the whole thing with her calling and asking to come over doesn’t make sense to me either and i end up replaying that in my head even when i don’t think about it. if he doesn’t, you should move on even if you both love each other. and there is always the hearts and happy face stuff attracted to pictures of them together and she post other reference that deal with them and the things they do and he also has the same on his social media pictures of them together smiling happy saying she is love of his life and other things. but yes, there’s a chance he might have changed and he doesn’t want kids anymore. feel like any type of texting will be ignored, or seen as me trying to get him back. like i don’t think she lives around here or work around here anymore. my ex first got a new girlfriend, i feared that it endangered the friendship we formed post-breakup. even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. the weird thing is she hasn’t unfriended or blocked me yet on facebook and i feel with all this anger/hatred she has towards me she would have done this already. say to do another couple weeks of nc and try to text her again.'s the worst when your ex's new significant other is someone you don't even like. until you let him go from your heart, you will never make the space for the right person. even though, she chose not to be with you in the end, it doesn’t mean she never wanted to be with you in the first place. you’ll do you, while they’ll do whatever it is that they do. prevent this, your most effective course of action would be to get off social media for a while. so, at some point i called a face to face, where i tried fighting for us one last time- presented him with the timeline leading up to proposal- how could he propose after 2 months- and he had dedicated a lana del rey song to me just the other day- a song that made me want to just die- so we agreed to no more sad texts- but apparently it didnt stop because again i needed to have another convo with him to get my point across. nothing beats straightforward honesty, its less hassle all round and if you are both playing such games then what does that really say ? of course, you should give her the time and space she needs to get over her ex and you will both need to start a new relationship that will not be a rebound. if she doesn’t contact you, then you should contact her. you just need someone else to think about who is better., your advice has made me open up and realize alot. this is a subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about behavior, anatomy, habits or anything else that might baffle you. i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me.’s what i keep telling myself especially since this girl does not live here but apparently has come down to visit (southern state and she’s from new york). granted the day after she work the breakup email she texted me “i didn’t mean to hurt you. three month rule after a breakup doesn’t apply to everyone. i do love him and i do want things to be re-patched up, but i want to know if this is something i should just give up on and push through the pain or try to rekindle… i do truly love being around him and being with him, we connect in ways i havent before. why can’t she let new dude organically become part of her life rather than inserting him into contexts i previously occupied? there’s a good chance she is not as happy with him as you are thinking in your mind.” and when someone asks if you’ve heard about his new girlfriend you should shrug it off.. my ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn’t like ) .#5 don’t make comparisons between you and the new partner. we had been dating for 3 years and when he broke up, he listed reasons like he wanted freedom, to be stress-free and he felt that the feelings faded. it just means she is trying to avoid you for some reason, or perhaps she was expecting you to talk to her so she can reject you (and feel better about herself). next thing i see is that she changes her facebook profile pic to the one of her and the new guy. ex bf broke up with me back in nov we dated for 3 years. give him some time, and if he doesn’t contact you, you should contact him and ask him if he cheated on you. just have been reading a lot of different things lately books and articles and was just wondering how people are getting with their exs after long periods of time. your ex started dating someone else within a week of breaking up, then it’s more likely to be a rebound. well, kissing your ex when you know you are starting seeing somone is not ok. about maybe 3 or 4 months ago she text me randomly saying she misses what we had but i found out a month ago that she is engaged and now she is married and i never knew about it only cause i saw her facebook saying she was engaged and now it says married. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. he say’s that he still loves me and calls me baby when we talk to each other, he also told me when i broke up with him that nobody is going to love you like i do! just accept that your ex has moved on, and so can you. she just wanted to do the exchange and leave, but she did mention the dating profile that i had re-activated. and while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. they don’t want to upset you or want you to move on. this may already be something you’ve done when you were still trying to get over the breakup, but keeping that mental tally does come in handy in situations like this. things you need to know before dating an outgoing introvert. apart from what’s recently happened, we both agreed we were happy and he even text to say i’m pleased to have spent them years with you, we had good times.
What to do when your ex starts dating someone like, my ex dated a few people shortly after me. you start to wonder how your ex is or what your ex is up to. just don’t make it obvious you want to get back together. i know she is on vacation with her new boyfriend, and i dont want to be the crazy pushy ex boyfriend. feel like i have failed in both mine and your life and that i could have done better but at least i tried the best i could while under the influence of other people. i just don’t get how someone can be so heartless and vindictive. she says she wishes i didn’t do this to the relationship. all i can do is block and avoid them on social media and focus on building my own life and wait for my heart to slowly heal. day 8 nothing so called and left voicemail saying i’m binning your bits but still want mine. please help i dont know whether to ignore or reply i love him so dearly and have tried everything to make it work including changing as a person to try and be accepted by him and his family/friends. he is actually my client and i am a senior executive in my company. in september i sent my ex roses because we would have had our 5 year anniversary and my ex was very happy about that (even though his new partner hated it). well after the exchange she texted me on my way home saying thanks. with the second (non) ex, i realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed it. i stay out of their lives and i expect them to do the same for me. but he posts pictures and quotes about being with his girlfriend and he posts pics on instagram with her too (i don’t have an insta, i only know this from a friend). i resisted the urge to stop walking and be approachable so i pretended to be talking to someone on my mobile phone and ignored him as i kept walking. we didn’t talk much after that then all of a sudden, 3 days later, i call her and she says she wants to get close to someone else; the guy she’s been texting. from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. decreasing your self worth and self esteem in the process and putting an unnecessary roadblock for yourself in moving on and finding the right girl for you. it’s hard to believe in what people say even when they are trying to help in a lot of ways because they don’t know situation they say same as what few others agree at. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). i miss just texting you funny pics and you sending me funny videos (he giggled), and when we broke up a month ago, i was thinking about things, and i wasn’t upset about losing the relationship, i just didn’t want the friendship to end. i thought we did have good connection she seemed happy but not really sure now but that don’t really mean anything anymore at this point. he called me by the pet name when we were friends, rather than when we were dating. i think you do have a chance to get back together. if anything, you’d be happy that your ex has decided to move on. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted.’m just hoping that she’ll see me for me…but i know she can’t do that unless i’m not there to be missed. they would be random texts weeks or months later and once she came by my work and recently the call asking to come by. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 3 and a half years and we broke up because he stole from me i then took up the opputinty to work on a ship and when for it 10 month at sea i still love my ex while being a sea i missed him lots. if it were to break down between them and she contacted me what would you suggest i do? he made it known that he started to go on dates with someone, even wearing the clothes that i got him (maybe guys are different, but i know i would’ve thrown or given that away). i’m writing to you right now, because i just don’t know what to do. he will continue playing with your emotions and keep dragging you along if you let him. them, keep improving yourself and focusing on you and it will get better :). either he can commit or you cut him off entirely from your life and move on. use this time to sort out your feelings and to make yourself more resilient. i and my ex broke up couple of weeks ago and i still don’t know the reason for that. if she ends the relationship, she will have to face all the pain and emptiness alone and she doesn’t think she is ready to do it yet.’s a question about whether or not my ex is trying to rub it in my face: i haven’t actually heard from him, but as far as the whole social media aspect goes, he hasn’t said anything about this new girl until he posted a concert picture and tagged her in it. like we were at a party together and after i’d left she texted me to say she was upset and had no-one to talk to. she started calling a couple weeks ago to ask random questions or if i’d bring my dog to her pet store. when you remember why it didn’t work out between the two of you, you’re less likely to be jealous of the person who used to be in your position. she recently reached out on email just thanking and asking if i was doing well. see what your saying on stop with the having hope and stop thinking of her. updating it postingnphotos and changing his profile photo with the one shes in it. now those belong to someone else, and that person is welcome to 'em. i said i’m so happy to see you are doing so good and that you are so happy now. i am pretty mad at him for doing me one day and her the next. either just being ignored or whatever so you do nc for another time period. thinking about your relationship with her in this way is just going to lower your self esteem it’s going to hurt your next relationship. that mean she is on to the next right even with the random they saying they miss you and what not. i met him exactly a year later when he was still sleeping around with women, and they weren’t officially divorced yet. on their 1st date she did the same things with him as she was doing with me, they went to same places, she talks to him exactly the same etc. you know your ex better than anyone, so you are the best judge if they are doing it to rub it in your face or not. posted before but now im really confused, my ex broke up with me about 3 month ago, we were together 10 years we have been in regular contact until last week when i decided to go nc i knew she had been seeing another guy and i think that’s why i was dumped but reading on here he could of been her back up plan before we finished, she kept lying about him all the time then last thursday she sent a text telling me she was now seeing him , but a month ago she said he was a rebound a bit of fun , now her saying that makes me think its serious between them last sunday after spending the day with her which she organised , holding my hand kissing me etc he text and she said i have to see him to sort my feelings out, she spent the night at his, i was heartbroken i think she is in love with this guy and after reading on this site its like she hasn’t been emotionally involved for months but on the other hand dumpers in rebounds think there in love but this guy has been around to pick her up when we were going wrong , she sent a snapchat on friday then i had caller id withheld calls on my phone on sunday which she used to do if we fell out could be coincidence but that has never happened before im trying not to panic i have been no contact for a week but god i miss her so much even after how horrible she has been but im in panic mode , how can she stop loving me , how can she forget me , how can she move on , etc etc etc but this site says if she waited 3 months or more to move on she admitted seeing him after 3 months but has been seeing him longer , and this guy is the total opposite (more confusion) real player not nice to women multiple partners etc etc ,but she says he is gorgeous and in her text she said i was good looking great sense of humour ,big heart which i think is a ego boost for her cos why leave if im all that anyway im so hurt and confused some good feedback would be excellent cos im at rock bottom. at first, you might think it’s so unfair that your ex has managed to find someone new while you’re still struggling to get over your breakup. was (am) basically just the complete opposite of his ex wife. your ex has found a way to deal with the grief. i said okay because i had done a few myself and they sucked. the example you gave of jane and gary i thought might be what is going on but i’m sure that’s not the case. during xmas my ex messaged me and he said that he thought about me, more than i would imagine (wtf, how would he know? hardest thing i’ve ever had to deal with in my 30 years of life, without a doubt. you have been in no contact since the breakup, how do you know all these things? think whether or not is he capable of doing it. my ex and i had been going out for almost 3 years before i broke up with him this past december right before new year’s eve. and after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. at the same time, i don’t want to be ‘the doormat’ who lets him walk all over me. and when you see how happy they look together, it may just cause your heart to break into even tinier pieces., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. if i have to guess, he will be making all the moves and all you will have to do is play it cool and don’t be needy. i’ll recommend you try the 5 step plan once, and if it doesn’t work, move on. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. i’ll recommend you keep contacting her via text and slowly increase the frequency and length of the conversations you have with her. i’d suggest you do wait at least one month. that’s why i think she moved on and over as quick as she has already and to the next guy she feels she has better connection with. you have to make an effort to go out there and make yourself happier. on the other hand, if you are not already friends with your ex’s new fling, absolutely do not friend her! i tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn’t think that’s a good idea yet because she’s currently happy with someone else. he said both of them went into it not expecting anything serious, but the more they chatted the more they had in common. you’re just sitting at home, looking for something to do. former ex who is just married recently told me that she been thinking of me and misses me. we do nc for two weeks at most, for now. your ex moved on before you did, you might feel as if they won or wonder why you didn't find someone else first. the fact that he managed to ‘fall in love’ with this woman who doesn’t even speak english and wants to marry her and buy a house with her hours after meeting her seems, frankly, insane. my ex sent me messages that he thought about me everyday, and also on that special day. my friend had me over for movies the next night too. even the whole thing with her dating her friend maybe even still. all you can do is learn from your mistakes you made and carry on with your life. i don’t want to go into the reasons why i think like this. i don’t want to “play games” but, i’d like to wait for a couple days after, as i mentioned before, i don’t want to upset her & i’d like to leave her wondering why i haven’t contacted her too. i want her back and don’t know how to proceed and would like your help. some people simply get over their exes in a shorter span of time than others. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? you need to stop thinking about the past and start thinking of your future. but all that is not going to help you with your current state of mind. our confrontation i started doing nc im on 90 days nc, 4months of them going out. · 16 comments women who cheated on their spouse, what caused you to do it and how did you feel afterwards? the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. yeah sure, she can go out with him even during late nights because she doesn’t have a kid and parents to take care of. i asked him how it was going and he said okay, it’s been a while since i’ve dated anyone, invalidating the fact that what we did over break wasn’t dating. and humans build attachment to someone they are with for some time. from someone you said to my face was like a brother to now saying ” i got a good one” with happy faces to ” i love you” with hearts a smiles. but maybe i do need some tactics now… please help! rebound relationship don’t work out because the person in a rebound is not emotionally available to start a healthy relationship. i did all the things that was written in your no contact period like hang out with friends, have a vacation, spa, focus to something like work and so many. so finally i decided to leave then two days later he came back to begged me plead me everything but i liked someone else. she also gets help with her problems in the next weeks. start no contact and even if she contacts you, don’t answer her. i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. we started talking very briefly via texts a month ago and she’d respond to my texts but never initiated. comparing yourself to your ex’s new girlfriend is like a death sentence, and convincing yourself how much better you are than her is not exactly healthy either. my birthday will be coming up this week and last week when i visited my ex he asked me for my new address. she would not answer my call or text messages on the day she sent the email. the other hand, it could be that your ex waited months before entering the new relationship and it could still be a rebound depending if they never really got over you. told her that i really don’t want to be on that site and that i loved her. this time, talk to him before getting back that you can’t do this on and off relationship and if he wants to get back together, he needs to be hundred percent sure he wants this. while i do believe creating space and time is productive, i’m in a situation where the ‘no contact’ period is impossible. i showed up telling him i’m not trying to “pull a beth” (his other crazy ex who we battled together and had fun doing so even though she borderline stalked him) and that i genuinely just wanted to be friends with him. he broke up with me cuz i hurt him about things that he’s exaggerated about and jumping to conclusions and a lot of miscommunication. me and my ex were together for 8 months, and i have been in nc for over 6 weeks since the breakup. i was just someone she thought was better looking then the last guy that’s it. she feels a little better when she is with garry, but she can’t shake the feeling that this relationship is not giving her the peace that she expected. but in reality, there’s always the possibility that you’ll be overcome by your emotions. i have ex's i stayed friends with who's happiness genuinely means a lot to me. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. it can make you start to question yourself: "if that's what he's into, am i like that? you are not sure if you should contact her, you should do another month of no contact. i’m in love with this guy and i don’t know what to do, the best thing is to move on but i love him too much to move on, he still asks me who i hang out with, and if i hanging out with guys, we’ve been together for 4 months and i need some great advice, please help me i’m in desperate need of help i don’t want to loose him and i feel like each day passes i’m loosing him! to get your boyfriend to propose: 10 hints to get the ring. commentsshareall 44 commentssorted by: besttopnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)[–]♀coldbrewedsunshine 57 points58 points59 points 4 months ago (2 children)when your brain starts wittering on in its sad and lonely way, accept that you loved that person.
When your ex girlfriend starts dating someone else remember all the stupid petty shit they used to do, the thoughtless things they said that hurt you. heck noooooo, if she’s in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then. i’m more homey, enjoy doing things as a couple, want to get married, have kids, be a good wife and mom, etc. give yourself a time limit for how long you are going to wait for her. i don’t want to be pushy if he honestly does not want to get back. she says she wishes i could still b the man iwas she she fell in love w me but doesnt think i can. about the only thing she has said in past is she misses me but never that i meant something or still do or was important. i can tell you from my experience that she is not as happy in the relationship as you think she is and she does miss you and probably still has a place in her heart for you. it’s just a weird situation being from a small town and having someone mistreat you so badly.[read: 9 things to keep in mind when your ex is about to get married]. likely do you think the rebound of your ex and another will last if it started all within a week of them talking to each other?.and i texted her a couple days later just to let her know her know i was sending her kids gift cards for their birthdays she didn’t get mad she just said ok. hating on this new person will just fuel your bitterness even more. it doesn’t matter if you want to get back together or not. i know how it looks and how things are but, would or do you see it as being completely over and it has been for some time from her perspective. like it cants just be you run into that person down the road and start talking and having good time again and be like we should try again and it works. in most cases, people have someone lined up before they breakup just so they don’t have to be single. so far i dont think her new reltation is a rebound reltn..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. i had just sent an apology letter realizing what i had done wrong, but other than that had gone/been quiet. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. ex and i broke up approx 4 and 1/2 months ago, we were together for over 5 years. if they breakup, and she contacts you, you can talk to her but don’t show neediness and ask her to get back with you immediately. if she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her. he didn’t speak to me since then – no texts or email. so if you concentrate on being the first to get over the breakup, you won’t be able to concentrate as much on healing your heart and moving on the healthy way. you contact your ex after the 30 day nc even if they’re still in that rebound relationship? some people are extremely active on facebook and twitter while some people don’t usually post their personal life all over social media. but i found out that he was already dating this new girl before i even came back home. ex and i have been broken up for around four months, dated for 3, and knew each other for a year before that. should i do at this point, considering all i’ve done and if i am unable to physically create space or make ‘no contact’. your happy with each other so all is left is the sex am i wrong? i desperately want to tell him all of that but i definitely don’t want to beg him to take me back. sent him a lengthy email saying i was sorry i messed up and that i hurt him, and that after we broke up i had done a lot of self-evaluation and i was sorry that i was so selfish and that i took him for granted. is is because she is tying to get over me or misses me, or does she actually hate me, or is this the kind of person she is now? is it a rebound when your dating close friend you both alrwdy know everything and get along great. now that i wanna work on the relationship and have gotten rid of all my anger issues he doesn’t wanna work on it. ex gf broke up with me at the end of november and found out she was on match a month later. would it take for *you* to unfollow someone on social media? or the fact you have same interest in spiritual beliefs and he takes you to shows and flashy events dealing with art because that’s what he does he does tattoos and he makes paintings for her. the memories you two have together are yours and yours alone. kevin, i need help figuring out if my ex is in a rebound relationship and what i should do next. broke up and he started dating his co worker, after 3days of the break up. so by the time you’re back on facebook or instagram or twitter, you’ve already worked up the courage to accept your ex’s new relationship. we finished watching the movie and we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he got a text from his friends about going out to eat.. that my ex is the type of guy when being cornered or pressured will make bad decisions or worst stupid ones… i think the best way to deal is to let him do his thing… but does he ever snaps out of this? we don’t hang in the same social circles so i have no clue?’s truly a gut wrenching feeling to think of your ex with someone else, especially if you are still in love with them and want to get them back.. long story short about a week ago she moved out as she said she was confused and need space and said to me that she wanted to be alone the next day i found out this guy was staying there… i done all the opposite to what was need to be done i got angry upset, needy and begging all within a week. even though your mind wants you to believe you didn’t, i know you did. if she doesn’t contact you and you still want her after a couple of months, you can try giving her a call and see how she responds. 13 more »457 · 799 comments what do men do that make you say "wtf"? we all have our breakdowns and lose ourselves every once in a while. and what if the ex has read another website or talked to friends with a different set of such strategies. even if they do some of these same things with their current partner, they will never recreate your entire relationship. i am very unsure what to do because i feel as if our spark is still there. other exs where the breakup was more amicable, i'm happy for them and wish them well. they don’t want you to start dating someone else because they are not over you and are hoping you will wait for them to come back. like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. i also called her (she agreed that i could call her) and i talked like i was doing great (i am sort of) and she said she didn’t have any feelings for her other ex anymore. just don’t try to hide your pain under a steely faà§ade of composure. also, i don’t plan on talking to him the rest of the week. it is a horrible time and i don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. but since then she has randomly hit me up out of nowhere between ending it and now. ex fiance got married two weeks after breaking off the engagement we have been togother for more then two years we had our problem. well my ex kept begging me but i would just ignore him&he would text me nonstop call me nonstop.’ve been together for a year (1 year and 15 days to be exact). like i said they are the same exact person with everything. i did the whole nc thing awhile ago when it first happen so i could leave her be happy with whoever and doing whatever. that your ex is now seeing someone else can be a painful realization. her parents don’t like me because we got into a little debt when we were younger. what i am trying to say is that no matter what happens, your course of action right now should be the same, i.. but after that all even i posted pictures to my fb account theres still no response from my ex boyfriend. she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. however, over the course of the next 2 or so years, he was constantly doubting his decision. i am currently going through a very strange ‘break up’ with my fiance of 4 years and there are some unique issues in our situation that are not really covered in your articles. i said “i wish i could meet you once and explain everything to you. for that you have to make some positive changes in your life during no contact. while some people argue there isn’t a benefit to ‘talking about the relationship’, he’s actually expressed that he likes it and is truly very open and honest when we do sit down and talk. and three weeks after your and your ex’s breakup? even if you know the relationship was horrible and that ending things was the best decision, it still can sting the first time they date someone, especially if you aren't in a place to start dating yet. weeks, she’d called three times texted a couple, i decided to call on the way to work. didn’t have any pictures of his ex on his screen saver, and he told me he was over her but he still had pictures of his ex in laws which i found weird and made me think that he wasn’t over that relationship. broke up with him through a pretty harsh text but did not expect him to actually go along with it while he was home on christmas break. but you really should do nc for at least a couple of months and learn to be happy without him. do you think her feeling threatened will help destroy their relationship? if they do - well, i've probably moved on too, or at least thought about dating someone else, so really they aren't that different from where i'm at. he continuously let’s me down with payments, which is due to his financial issues associated with drug use. you saw that the happy new couple is always at this pub near your place. whatever technique your ex has used to get over your relationship isn’t really your business., friending her will allow you to see where she works, what she does with her free time, and all of her embarrassing pictures, but you don’t, and shouldn’t, need to know anything about this girl let alone intimate details about her life. i just let him do his thing because i think maybe this is the way for him to let his anger out that i was going away. even though we dated for almost 3 years, we never experienced going through a rut or anything. set up a night out with your close friends so you can tell them all about it and then move on. this probably shouldn’t bother you all that much if you’re already in a happy state in your life. and after we spoke about that, he flirted with me and he even held my hand, examining it. you for for your blog as i’m in a desperate situation as this has been going on for six months and i don’t know what to do. all but mainly kevin,I recently ran into my ex and it was extremely awkward and now i’m wondering if e was interested and is waiting for me to initiate contact the way i’ve always done? he said before he left that we’ll still see each other and exchange text messages. i’ll be honest kevin i don’t have many people to talk to about this issue so i appreciate the advice. do you really see a long term potential with her? anyway, as of two days ago, i texted him for something. or do i still have a chance given the history we have? i graduate in two months… had the ring custom made from jeweler out of colorado, and planned on asking her to marry me in september/october of this year. i made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of i have moved on makes me think why bother. goldreply[–]♀dottywine 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (0 children)the only ex that this happened with was my first ever bf. 3 years later i found out she had a baby with that dude and i started feeling grief and so forth and i don't know why. i told her i’m glad to see her but i don’t want her to be here just because she had a fight or argument with him she said that was not the case and they are not seeing each other. i know i’m supposed to be doing no contact (which i’m implementing right now), but he usually texts me “good night” and “good morning” even if we’re upset with one another. seems like she likes excitement and guys who are hard to get. seeing your ex with a new significant other can feel like a painful blow right to the heart. whatever her reasons for not being with you right now is her business and not yours. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. kind of makes you think those are more relatable to them then anything else. and i don’t think you should talk to him for at least 2-3 weeks after this. i havent contacted him since after i saw the picture and i will not do it… so i will follow your advice. i had run into her once before but i have not been trying to talk to her let her be happy with who she wants and doing what se wants.. i don’t know if shes a rebound and if he’ll come crawling back or what. example, suppose your ex always says he/she wants someone with a career goal. someone close who you already know and you are already happy being around them before you started a relation ship with them. it usually doesn’t have anything to do with how perfect their rebound is for them. · 168 comments ladies, what do you think all the great guys you ever known, have in common? weekend we skyped for a few hours and everything was ok, he even asked me to come visit him next month and that he would take me camping. i have thrown myself back into the gym working out with a trainer and have taken on a part time job for the summer to give me something to do. up with me for someone else we did have not sex in 6 moths he says i’m bored never go out and the new guy he like to go out the opposite of me is that a rebound ?, i dont want to lag stuff on and start something. need to stay, as i was really worried that if she didn’t have someone there to look out for her, she wouldn’t get better. she recently started dating a guy and, via facebook, they were in a relationship after only ten days of knowing each other. my friend asked him if he’d ever consider getting back with me he said “i don’t want to say no, just because of all the good memories we’ve had together. but thing is, he says he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t care about me anymore. i don’t think either one of you is a rebound. regardless of that, your best course of action is to follow the 5 step plan. i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days.